It is important to be in love with each other. However, the secret for a couple longevity is to be in love with the life they are living together.
Men are from the Sun and women from the Moon. Any relationship requires honest communication to address the two persons differences. As it goes way back to the yin/yang origin during the big bang, a union between a man and a woman is the most complicated relationship between two human beings. A couple’s love is the answer for the longing towards the primordial unity, that cannot be accomplished by one person alone. Harmony between a man and a woman requires clarity, sincerity and humility in communication. Below are five suggestions for better communications in a relationship.
ONE – Try to understand both perceptions. Addressing facts and opinions may not be enough to answer the couple harmony. Often when the communication doesn’t reconcile the differences, healing the perception may work better and it is not necessarily the other person perception.
TWO – Start sentences with “I” instead of “You”. Especially in heated disagreements, starting a sentence by “You” may be perceived as an accusation and encourage an agressive reaction. Starting by “I” infers speaking from one’s feelings, which by nature are subjective and non-negotiable.
THREE – Go to sleep without anger. Daily little waves are better than a big tsunami. A daily cleansing before going to sleep offers better conflicts resolution and anger management. Not only will both sleep better, but intimate togetherness will mend lots of unnecessary wounds.
FOUR – Love the life you are living together. Passions come and go but the couple’s life is present at every moment. It should constantly be fed and enjoyable. Practically, the couple life needs common goals about family, work, hobby or else, as well as daily affective thoughts and actions.
FIVE – Care for your couple soul. A relationship is not only about satisfying each other needs and wants. The third entity called couple needs to be cared for every day. Most separations and divorces are the result of couple neglect. Though invisible, the couple has a soul that needs to be fed daily.